When I first got started on my journey I was not thinking of how to get started or what steps to follow, I only knew one thing. I knew that my life had to change, I was tired of living or better yet, I was tired of just existing. Does that sound familiar?
When I look back at my journey I realize that Honesty to myself was one of the first most important steps......why honesty? Well because sometimes we live in denial. We prefer to point fingers at others rather than take responsibility for how we think, speak and act. When you become honest with yourself, you remove yourself from the "victim" mentality and move toward reclaiming your life.
So let's begin this exercise with HONESTY! - can you do that?
Steps to self-discovery:
Acknowledge your past mistakes - this is not about focusing on why you make mistakes, this is about identifying what you need to work with and understanding your role.
Forgiveness - this is not about forgetting the past, instead its about releasing yourself and others from past mistakes. If your pain is about a failed relationship, forgiveness is not a way to salvage a relationship as some relationships might be over. However its about releasing yourself from the resentments and about finding the strength and energy to move on. If your pain is about your personal mistakes, its about understanding none of us are perfect and that its not about not making mistakes, its about learning from them and being better. ******We can't move on with resentment in our hearts!
Community - Surround yourself with people who will cheer you on, support you on your quest to becoming a better version of yourself. A coach, mentor, minister, priest or someone you love and admire. We need to connect with people that want to see us improve in life according to our needs not their vision!
Journal - You can begin with simple questions such as:
Who am I?
What do I really believe and why?
If no one could stop me, if nothing got in my way, what would I really want in life?
Why do I act as I do?
These are just some questions you can ask however as you get started you will come up with some questions which have been in the back of your mind
for some time. The key to the journal is that you should revisit your questions every day until you feel in your heart without a doubt that the answers you provided are correct for you. This exercise will help you get clear on who you are or want to be and what you want to achieve.
Challenge yourself - Hold yourself accountable
Set time line's
Track your progress
Treat this like a job, however knowing this is your life!
Getting clear on who we are is not easy as you will have to face some ugly truth about how we think, speak, act and most importantly we will need to challenge what we are willing to do.
We need to understand that we are a work in progress, therefore as we head out on this journey, we might make mistakes, come across some bumps on the road yet we need to have courage to move forward. We will do this, because we deserve better, we are worth the time and effort we spend to develop ourselves.